My work makes it very clear how overwhelmed so many of us are. Personally, even as someone who has a pretty good handle on the physical stuff, I am easily overwhelmed because we are so inundated with news, ideas, advertisements, logistics, other people’s expectations, and our own internal monologue to keep track of it all.

Here’s how I minimize the overwhelm by focusing on what I CAN control.

I always encourage a pre-holiday declutter. Now is the time, particularly with kids, to remind them of the NEED to make room before new items potentially come in. Some things, but not everything can be their favorite for 5 years straight. We can help them (and us) build decluttering muscles into the regular rhythm of life habits.
It’s the perfect time to reorient expectations and decide how you can enjoy the particular season you are in knowing it doesn’t last forever. Toys are for a brief season, and if you can prioritize letting some go every year, you will minimize the toy chaos and still be able to enjoy whatever a favorite thing is.
Consider occasionally taking a year off from sending holiday cards, hosting a party, baking EVERY family recipe or attending all the local festive happenings.
Don’t try to do it alone. Name where you need help, and include your spouse and kids. (Mine love wrapping gifts and I love seeing their creative approach shine through)
Giving gifts is really an expression of love to let someone know we think of them and care about them. Consider their interests, share something consumable, or enjoy an experience together (think memberships, restaurants, museums, day trips). Making goodies for family and friends is a way we enjoy giving and also sweet time working together with my kids or family members.

For the last 6 years we have gifted our kids super fun experiences (special trips, amusement park visits, monthly dates, a DOG!), but this year we plan to give them physical gifts. They aren’t asking for much, but I’m focusing on their favorite hobbies (baking, sports, crafting, fashion). For family and friends we are focusing on consumable goodies and time spent together. We aren’t buying any new decor and maybe we will send holiday cards after a couple years off.

It doesn’t have to be complicated. We can give ourselves a break. Snuggles on the couch by the twinkle lights and classic movies, dancing to Christmas music, catching up with people we don’t see Often is enough.